My mom turned 97 on January 8, 2015. Most of her last decade had been lost to ever advancing dementia. Her interaction with this world was connected by a thread, and my visits with her consisted of a pantomime in which I pretended that she could hear and see me and that the words which occasionally came out of her mouth made sense. It was heart wrenching and seemed as if it would last forever.
If
my back was bad, my mom's was many multiples worse. While her
constitution seemed impenetrable, her achilles heel was her back. The
pain, at some moments, was great and it would be the painkillers keeping
my mom comfortable, that would be the most likely culprit in her
demise. But for each battle, each turn for the worse, there was a
corresponding minor miracle. She was still alive, and if not wholly
intact, at least she was amazingly resilient.
As I
returned from my time on the road, I made a visit to my mom's apartment
in the early afternoon hours of April 24, 2015. Several days before, the
discomfort had returned with a vengeance. She was all doped up, and
completely out of touch when I arrived. Her caretaker told me it had
been worse than before. If she didn't respond within the next few days,
there was fear that she would just drift away. I kissed my mom's
forehead and told her of the adventure on which I had embarked. I left
out any mention of my own issues, for it seemed it would be ludicrous to
do so. Even if she couldn't hear me, and understood nothing of what was
being reported, she was still my mother. I squeezed her hand, and I
think she squeezed back.
On June 16,1997 the two New
York metropolitan teams met for the first time in a regular season game.
It was a ticket as valuable as the World Series. There was a fervor and
excitement that belied any particulars. It was at a moment when the
Yankee engine was in full force, all the young talent resulting in the
1996 World Championship, the beginning of that memorable five year run.
In contrast, the 1996 season had been yet another disaster for the Mets,
as the losses piled up and their final record was a dismal 20 games
below .500.
Throughout the years, the teams had
continued to meet during the regular season and once in the post-season,
in the 2000 World Series. I was at the game, sitting along the third
base line, when Roger Clemens threw the shards of Mike Piazza's bat in
his direction. But time and repetition had dulled the senses. As the
crowd wandered into the Stadium for the first game of this year's
version of the rivalry, it was hard to even imagine the level of
intensity from that first encounter.
The innings
moved along without much notice until I realized that it was the bottom
of the 6th and the Yankees were still hitless. The 7th produced the same
results as did the 8th. The one and only time I had been present at a
no-no was on May 14, 1996. It was thrown by a pitcher at
the tail end of a career that had started out with the promise of
unimaginable greatness and then dissolved, largely due to a series of
bad choices. The name of that pitcher was well known to Met fans: Doc
Gooden.
I remember the stands literally swaying as the last out was recorded that night. The opponents were the Seattle Mariners, led by Ken Griffey Jr. and a young phenom named Alex Rodriguez. It was an emotional experience, as Gooden was struggling at that point just to remain on a major league roster. It would prove to be his saving grace and allowed him to extend his dreams a little while longer.
Now it was Jacob DeGrom's chance at baseball immortality, at least for one day.
I remember the stands literally swaying as the last out was recorded that night. The opponents were the Seattle Mariners, led by Ken Griffey Jr. and a young phenom named Alex Rodriguez. It was an emotional experience, as Gooden was struggling at that point just to remain on a major league roster. It would prove to be his saving grace and allowed him to extend his dreams a little while longer.
Now it was Jacob DeGrom's chance at baseball immortality, at least for one day.
The colors in the crowd may have been
evenly divided, but the noise generated by the Met contingent was
overwhelming as the first Yankee went down on strikes to start the
bottom of the ninth. Jacoby Ellsbury was next to arrive. On the second pitch, fooled by a slow curve, he
stuck out his bat and hit a dribbler down the third base line.
The no hitter was gone, and the last remaining shred of Yankee dignity
was saved.
But, as this is baseball and momentum goes
only as far as the next day's pitcher, the weekend belonged to the
Yankees and they limped on to a return engagement with the Rays at 7
wins and l0 losses. It was April 26 and the middle three hitters in the
lineup had exactly one home run among them. Murderer's Row it was
clearly not.
My wife seemed to be doing just fine in
my absence, thank you very much. The sad truth is that I am more
hindrance than help to her, like the child she never bore but was
saddled with for the rest of her days. She had been able to keep up with
her portion of the workload in our office in my absence and had been
freed of the other responsibilities that my inept presence demanded. In
fact, she was probably looking at the calendar to see when my next road
trip began. If she was happy to see me arrive, she was equally as happy
when the door closed behind me.
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